A professor by any other name October 26, 2016Posted by mareserinitatis in education, feminism, societal commentary, teaching.
Tags: feminism, names, students, teaching, titles
I decided that after my previous teaching experiences, creating a sense of distance between myself and my students was prudent. I never understood this from the student perspective (likely because most of my teachers tended to the formal side so it was seldom an issue), but as a professor, I definitely see an advantage. I want to help the students and be approachable, but being approachable doesn’t mean I want to be their friend and I also expect them to treat me professionally. In the past, not all students have been courteous, to say the least. Even when I started out more formally and then loosened up, it seemed like the loosening up was a bad idea because it was taken as a sign that I’d stopped having boundaries.
When I was in undergrad and later doing my master’s degree, I took several classes from a particular professor. This professor had this quirky habit of calling all students either Mr. or Ms. LastName. It was strange, particularly since, as a Quaker, I really shy away from using titles as much as I can. It grew on me, though, and created this sense that you were being treated like the professional colleague he intended you to become once you graduated. (I felt bad for him, though, when my last name kept changing because of a divorce and later a remarriage. At some point, he said, “What am I supposed to call you?!”)
I decided to experiment and, with my former math prof as inspiration, I have been addressing all of my students as Mr. LastName, despite it being somewhat uncomfortable. (I have no female students, but I intend to call any I may have Ms. LastName.) I also said specifically that I expected to be referred to as Professor LastName or just Professor.
While it has taken a bit of getting used to, I’m starting to get the hang of it. When discussing students with faculty or administration, though, I have to use both first and last name since others will often refer to them by their first names. This leaves me confused as I will have no idea about whom they are talking.
On the flip side, I don’t know for sure how the students refer to me when talking amongst themselves. I have an idea, though, because I received an email from a student addressed to me by my first name.
I wasn’t sure what to do about this lapse and I needed to respond to the email promptly, so ignored the address, although I suspect I shouldn’t have and won’t in the future. I figured I would check with my colleague, who goes by Dr. LastName.
I popped into his office the next day and asked, “How do you deal with students who refer to you by your first name?”
He cocked his head to the side, thought for a moment, and responded, “They never have.”
It truly is amazing to me that in several years of teaching, no one has ever referred to him by his first time, yet I can’t make it three months without it happening.