Advice for life July 2, 2013Posted by mareserinitatis in family, personal, societal commentary.
Tags: advice, relationships
I found this while scrounging around my old blog for something. I never found it because I got distracted when I found this. It’s a compilation of my life experience distilled into a bulleted list of advice. It was a nice refresher, so I thought I’d share it here. If you have anything you’d like to add, feel free in the comments.
Be independent. Don’t depend on other people. Accept help when others offer it with good intentions but not if they give with strings attached. Be a person others can depend on, even if they don’t want to.
Never take your friends and loved ones for granted. Never hold back your feelings for them. Take every opportunity to let them know you care about them and appreciate their place in your life. Spend as much time with them as you can. You will regret missed opportunities later on.
Don’t wait around for other people to do things. You miss out on a lot of wonderful experiences, and our fears about doing things and being alone are often unfounded.
Don’t expect loved ones to easily let you know their feelings because a lot of people aren’t very good at expressing them. Just know that caring for a person never goes unappreciated and take their words at face value.
There is an unlimited supply of love in the universe, and you’re free to give out as much as you can. And you should!
Don’t be too hard on yourself and don’t hang around others who are negative about you or anyone else. It will take a long time to recover from the damage this causes you. You can’t make everyone happy, but you should be honest with yourself and be the best person you know how to be. That doesn’t mean there isn’t room for improvement, though.
Never react to someone in anger. If you’re angry, take some time to go away and think about it before you say something stupid.
A person will remember the way you treated them and talked to them for the rest of their life. Think about that every time you interact with them. This is especially important when this is your family and you’ll be around them for many years.
Have goals in life, but be flexible. Having goals doesn’t always mean reaching them, and failing to reach them doesn’t reflect badly on you. The path toward the goal is a means to growing as a person, and that is more important than reaching the goal. Sometimes, often times, those diversions away from the goal will make you a better person.