How to get something accomplished December 22, 2016Posted by mareserinitatis in family, humor, teaching, work, younger son.
Tags: children, Driving, parenting, productivity, younger son
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I’ve been wondering why I felt like I got little of what I wanted done the beginning of the year, but the past four or five months have been amazingly productive. Part of that is, of course, due to the fact that I have been regularly employed since August, and having a job to go to makes you feel productive just because you show up not wearing pajamas. At least I haven’t yet… (And I must’ve had an exceptional class because I don’t think any of them did, either, despite our class meeting at 8 a.m.)
I think I realized the other thing that helped: I moved to another town. You may laugh, but I’ve been back home a couple days now, and it’s kind of hitting me that driving my offspring around really chews up my day. (No wonder I was under a lot of pressure to get a drivers license when I was in high school.) Doubly unfortunate, we are down to one vehicle because someone ran into Mike last week and his vehicle is waiting to be assessed by our insurance company, so I’ve been responsible for driving him around, too. However, he begins his vacation tomorrow, which means he gets to play chauffeur, even if only to himself. Conveniently, there’s no activities for the offspring to go to, starting tomorrow.
My next goal is to get him to do all the cooking…but I already failed that one since I promised to make meatloaf.
Anyway, the gist of the story is that people are more productive when they have a lot of time to themselves. That being said, I am glad I get to spend some time with the family, even if some days it feels like it’s mostly in the car.
Mercurial biology text October 3, 2016Posted by mareserinitatis in education, science, younger son.
Tags: biology, education, mercury, science, units, younger son
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Younger son was reading through some biology homework when he suddenly pipes up, “Mom! Did you know you need mercury in your blood?”
I was of course quite shocked at his proclamation because that just didn’t make any sense. I asked him to read me the sentence. It said something about how the blood’s pressure needs to remain at xx (where xx is some number I don’t remember) mmHg. “And Hg is mercury!”
While I can see where he would get that impression, this instigated a long conversation about how we measure air pressure. It also made me wonder why they don’t bother explaining units before they start using them. I suppose it may be because they don’t think like younger kids, who could easily read something into it that an adult would never have thought of.
I’m just glad he thought to mention it before he went and got a hold of some mercury.
Conversations with the kid February 25, 2016Posted by mareserinitatis in physics, science, Uncategorized, younger son.
Tags: physics, science, Tesla, younger son
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Younger son: “I don’t care if Tesla was smarter than you, I still love you.”
Me: “But he was only just a bit smarter, right?”
Younger son: “Nope. He was a lot smarter. You just do physics.”
Me: “I also do electrical engineering.”
Younger son: “Oh.” *wanders off to kitchen*
Thanks for the vote of confidence, kid.
Meet the old math, same as the new math January 22, 2016Posted by mareserinitatis in education, homeschooling, math, younger son.
Tags: division, homeschooling, math, math books, multiplication, younger son
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The younger son is beginning adventures in algebra, and I had a hard decision to make. He’d been using computer-based programs to learn math, but Mike and I decided we didn’t want to go that route any longer. I had spent a lot of time looking into curriculum with the older son, so I already had a textbook available (Jacob’s Elementary Algebra), and it’s one that has received excellent reviews.
It’s also 37 years old. Apparently there’s a newer edition, but that’s not the one I bought.
I had one concern with using this book. A lot of the standards surrounding math curriculum have changed and become standardized. There are a lot of texts available that have been evaluated and measure up to those standards. I was worried that by going with an older book, I was going to shortchange the younger son in his education. (I think that’s something almost every homeschool parent worries about.) The problem with a lot of the modern curricula, though, is that I really don’t like it. While I think the sciences generally benefit from taking a problem-solving approach, I’m not so sure that’s the best way to do it with math. Sure, I think there are ways to teach it more effectively, especially in terms of using active learning strategies and hands-on learning. Reasoning is important, but so is process, and kids need to come out of the classroom very fluent in process and computation. I’m one of those old-fashioned types that thinks you’re better off giving your kids a multiplication table than a calculator.
I had issues with one curriculum that was being used locally, for instance, because it taught division as repeated subtraction without teaching long division. It also taught matrix math and repeated sums without teaching the standard multiplication schemes. For those who are familiar with all the controversy over curricula and math standards, I’m sure this is old hat.
I was pleasantly surprised, then, to find that this 37 year old book assumes that the student knows long division and standard multiplication. However, in the first chapter (which is review), it introduced both matrix multiplication and repeated division as alternative methods. Repeated division was done side by side with long division as a way to show how long division works. However, it was not suggested as a good way to do division but to augment student understanding of long division. Matrix multiplication was proffered as a bonus problem, but I made sure younger son understood how to do it. I found with the older son that he was less likely to stumble on multiplication problems if he used the matrix method but would have a hard time keeping things straight with the standard method. It’s a good tool to have in your toolbox, and I have even pulled it out when I had to do a fairly large problem by hand despite only having learned it about 10 years ago.
This left me feeling like this book was going to work just fine. In fact, I’m rather disappointed that I didn’t get to use this book in high school. (It was already out of print, sadly.) Apparently, though, Amazon reviewers, internet philosophers, and other homeschooling parents really do know what they’re talking about. Feynman may even have approved.
Adventures in high school classes January 5, 2016Posted by mareserinitatis in education, gifted, homeschooling, science, Uncategorized, younger son.
Tags: grades, high school, homeschooling, younger son
The younger son was very adamant that he wanted to take high school biology this year. He wasn’t in my face about it, but whenever the question was put to him about whether he was sure he wanted to do that, he was pretty firm.
My approach to dealing with this, after seeing he was sure was, “What the hell?!” Worst case scenario is that he fails and has to retake it in four years with his age mates.
The first couple assignments were great. However, when he hit the second unit of the class, I started having second thoughts. It wasn’t going well. And would failing a class leave a long term scar on his academic record?
He was worried, too, but he started asking me how he could improve things. I noted that he started saying he needed to “study harder,” but when I asked him what he meant, he wasn’t sure. I started giving him specific suggestions and pointers and told him that doing those things is what “study harder” meant.
I learned a few things from this experience. First, younger son didn’t know how to study when he started this class. To anyone who has ever dealt with a bright kid, you’ll identify this as a common problem. It’s hard for kids to learn how to study when the subject matter they’re tackling is relatively easy and doesn’t require the type of effort that a seriously challenging class does…or any other life obstacle. I think we’re all convinced this was a good experience in that regard. Second, I’m probably more worried about his grades than I thought, but I think I’m managing not to be a helicopter parent. There were some assignments he submitted that he didn’t ask me to review. Some came back with really good grades and some didn’t, but I really wanted this to be his own work. Honestly, it’s a bit more stressful to be hands off than I thought. I keep reminding myself that I should be celebrating a good effort instead of relatively effortless higher grade (that probably indicates he wasn’t seeing anything new).
To all of our surprise, he pulled his grade up to a B- for the first semester. This guarantees he won’t be a straight A student in high school, but I personally think he got a lot more out of it now than if he’d taken it when he was supposed to.
Fun conversations with younger son December 16, 2015Posted by mareserinitatis in education, homeschooling, science, younger son.
Tags: Asgaard, comic books, homeschooling, science, Thor, younger son
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Part of the fun of hanging out with my offspring for part of the day is the entertaining conversations we get to have. When he was younger, he had some awfully adorable misconceptions that resulted in a lot of fun. Now that he’s older, his discussions have become more sophisticated.
Younger son: “Mom, have you ever wondered how Thor’s hammer generates lightning?”
Me: “Not really.”
Younger son: “It’s Asgaardian science!”
Me: “I bet they took a giant tesla coil and shrunk it down to fit into Mjolnir.”
Younger son: “But can Tesla coils create thunder clouds?”
Me: “I don’t think so.”
Younger son: “Oh. I suppose that’s just for dramatic effect.”
Me: “Maybe the hammer has some kind of weather control device?”
Younger son: “I bet it has something to generate static. That’ll attract particles and cause condensation in the air.”
Me: “That might work. It’s amazing how the Asgaard figured out how to shrink all that stuff down into a hammer, isn’t it?”
I think we need to work on doing a Mjolnir prototype for a science fair project.
World’s Worst Officemate November 23, 2015Posted by mareserinitatis in education, family, gifted, homeschooling, research, science, younger son.
Tags: biology, computers, gifted, homeschooling, office space, younger son
I have been working at home, trying to finish up this PhD thing once and for all. Earlier this year, the place I worked was shut down and so I figured that if I had any desire to stay in academia (which I do), the PhD thing is kind of a necessary evil.
Because of the job situation, however, I also ended up with a new officemate: my younger son. It was actually a combination of factors: private school is expensive, middle school is a cesspool of derision and contempt (and therefore not the best place to develop social skills), and, finally, the younger son really wanted to take high school biology and no one would let him. Except me, being the overindulgent parent I am.
I have to admit that he’s been a bit easier to deal with than his older sibling. It’s amazing how much easier this education thing is when you’re not dealing with ADHD. The younger son is amazingly self-sufficient and does a good job of keeping a schedule.
I have, however, discovered one major flaw in this plan. I had no idea how much middle schoolers talked. Mostly, he gets excited about the things he’s learning in his class, which really tickles me. However, he wants to share everything with me. Every. Thing. I have learned more about genes and cell processes and reproduction in the past two months than I probably did during my own high school biology class. I have learned about social and mental and physical health. I am beginning to speak Spanish with a level of proficiency that has not been present since my teens. And mostly, I see him being happy and excited about learning again.
Unfortunately, he’s not quite so receptive when I begin to talk about coding and arrays and debugging and compiler issues and, especially, writing. I have begun, as of late, to tell him that while I’m glad he’s learning, I really need him to let me focus on my work, too. Someday, if he has to share an office with someone, this will be good real life practice for not making them insane. At least he’s not asking to go out every ten minutes, like the dogs.
Partial perfectionism February 19, 2015Posted by mareserinitatis in family, teaching, younger son.
Tags: perfectionism, school, teaching, younger son
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The younger son had forgotten a text book which he needed to do an assignment, so I told him that he should get done what he could and try to finish it up in the morning.
But mom…she doesn’t accept work unless it’s completely done.
She may not, I told him, but your future teachers probably will, so it’s a good habit. At least she’ll see you made some effort on it.
There were several classes I’ve had throughout college where I didn’t complete the entire assignment. Frankly, sometimes I just couldn’t. Or maybe I was short on time. However, handing in 8 out of 9 problems, even if it didn’t earn me a perfect grade, certainly earned me enough to get a very high grade in almost all of my classes.
I really don’t like this policy of “it has to be completely done, and I won’t accept anything late.” I totally get not accepting anything late, but I think the “completely done” thing is bunk. I would rather a student put it in a thoughtful, partial attempt than not do anything at all. The feedback I would provide as a teacher may be helpful to the student, too.
The notion of “all or nothing” feeds into perfectionism, particularly the kind that leads to paralysis and lack of motivation. “It’s not worth it to do anything if she won’t accept incomplete work,” is the kind of mindset I grew up with. Now that I teach, I know that every effort you make on your homework or on learning something will not be wasted effort. Few people ever get any topic 100%, but putting in time and effort will get you closer.
I would always tell my students to put the best effort you can into your homework and then go to the teacher for help on the rest. Teachers would rather see an effort or an attempt to solve something rather than a student who shows up empty-handed and saying, “I don’t understand.” It’s very hard to understand how to help the student unless you can see where they’re struggling.
This is a good life skill to have, too. Is it better to wait to clean the kitchen fully or should you at least take 10 minutes to do what you can? Personally, I try to do what I can because I seldom have blocks of time to allow me to do things with the full depth and effort I would like. You can make progress doing it a bit at a time. It’ll never be as fast as you want, but it’s better to keep doing it than forget it because you can’t do it ‘right’. Once it’s done, it doesn’t always matter how quickly you did it.
It also dissuades people from trying new things. “Oh gee…I can’t cook crepes perfectly the first time out, so there’s really no point in trying.” Honestly, a mangled crepe is almost always better than no crepe at all. More importantly, you’ll learn from the experience.
I am therefore doing my best to teach my son that some effort is far better than no effort. There are few things in life that we can do as well and fully as we like, so I want to disavow him of the notion of “all or nothing” right away.
The Christmas Aftermath December 26, 2014Posted by mareserinitatis in computers, family, younger son.
Tags: computers, Mike, younger son
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Christmas presents are better when they have an element of DIY. The younger son is learning how to replace a laptop screen…
Mom, could you homeschool me? December 15, 2014Posted by mareserinitatis in education, gifted, homeschooling, younger son.
Tags: acceleration, gifted, gifted education, homeschooling, parenting, school, younger son
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I knew we had to do something when, early in the school year, the younger son asked me to homeschool him. When I asked him why, there was the range of answers that included he’s not looking forward to losing recess when he gets to middle school, he’d like to spend more time with me (obviously we’re nowhere being a teenager right now), and even wanting to finish college at 14 or 15.
All I could think was, “Aren’t you supposed to be the easy one?!”
He is. Honestly, homeschooling him would be emotionally easy, but I’m not so ready to quit everything and become a full-time mom again. Or maybe ever. Not sure, and hope to never find out. The fact of matter is that he’s involved in so many activities that homeschooling him would involve me becoming a full-time chauffeur, and I know it would make me crazy.
On the other hand, he’s said he’s not sure he wants to leave school because he likes it and would miss his friends. After several discussions, he told me:
I think I need to write a pro and con list.
In the meantime, I’ve done a list in my head. First and foremost, he likes school. To me, that is the prime reason to keep him there. If he’s got a good thing going, don’t mess with it.
Beyond this, however, we’re discussing some academic acceleration for a couple subjects at school. I honestly do think that he’s better off staying where he is, but it’s also clear that the standard curriculum is not going to cut it. At a couple points, I contemplated whole grade acceleration, but I’m now opposed to this idea. I spent a lot of time reading through the Iowa Acceleration Scale material, and he has a couple things going against him: he’s already one of the youngest in his class, he’s small, and he’s athletic. Participation in sports is a major no-no if you’re going to bump kids up entire grades because this can have very real implications for the physical development and ability later on. I’m now certain that this would be a bad idea for him, and so subject acceleration in a couple areas seems to be the best solution. Fortunately, the school is, so far, open to discussion.
The other thing I’ve come to realize is that there’s really no hurry in getting through school. Is it really any better to go to college early and find a job early and lose that much time from your childhood? I realize that, for some kids, this is the only way to deal with the gap between mental ability and typical school pacing. Or maybe they are really that driven. I am fortunate in the fact that my kid doesn’t seem to require that level of acceleration, and I’d like to give him as much time as possible to explore his options.
I think, most of all, I want him to understand that there’s no reason to hurry up and get there, despite the fact that a lot of people think that’s somehow a sign of competence. I guess I’m starting to realize that no one really will care if he finishes high school in two years or four…just that he get there and finished. If he finishes in four, though, there’s the opportunity to explore more interests and do other things without the stress and expectations of adulthood weighing him down. Given the opportunity, there are a lot of other things I wish I could’ve done in my teens that aren’t an option now. I therefore hope he understands the value of taking his time: maybe he can learn to enjoy the journey.